Those who live in cities around the world are likely going to have similar experiences about living and the associated challenges regardless of their location on the globe. Most of these challenges revolve around stress which studies have shown is a part of living. Regardless of what you do and your profession and place stress is not avoidable but could be minimized. Those who see stress as an enemy will probably live an irritable life which is quite unnecessary.
How then do we cope with stress? I am going to give you tips that have helped and are still helping me in coping with life in the city of Lagos Nigeria, the most populous African city, where orientation of people is quite different in many ways about stress and living with others.
1. Wrong views on stress
Get the right meanings and impression on stress. Those who misconstrued some daily activities or physical exercises as stress will likely be over burdened by what stress is not. You could read up some literatures, journals, or visit some websites and publications like this website to get to know more on stress. I believe when you can relate your activities and place them in right perspectives on what stress is then you could avoid being overwhelmed by some wrong thoughts about it.
2. Do not make stress an issue
Those who will readily be devastated by stress are those who see it as an issue. It is better to ride on the wave of stress rather than be consumed and overtaken by it. So do not see stress as a problem but as a challenge of living that can be handled and live with, with few consequences.
3. Schedule your activities right
It may sounds strange to be advised on scheduling your activities which you have been doing for many years. If you have been bothered by stress then I think it is advisable to reappraise your activities in the light of this understanding in order to identify some probable flaws that may hitherto be hidden. It could be revealing. Do not therefore live on assumption but know that the way you schedule your activities can out blow the impact of stress on you. For instance schedule only the number of activities you could take per day. Do not over estimate your abilities but take only the number of activities you think you could successfully carry out in a day. An uncompleted task could leave you spent.
4. Stop brooding over it
Those who simply enjoy living are those that do not turn thoughts of their stressful activities over and over in their minds. It is wise you handle it as they come and forget about them when you could not handle it. It could be devastating psychologically if you do not let go any nagging task and thoughts of your uncompleted activities or difficult ones.
5. Live one day at a time
As soon as a day is over let it be gone. Carry-over thoughts on the previous day could leave you spent, dissipating your energies.
6. Food supplements
I have found over the years the importance of multivitamin capsules in combating stressful cities life. One faces traffic jams, long stay in vehicles, inhalation of fumes from automobile, eating polluted foods and food materials etc are common causes of stress with its attendant health implications. It is wise to work out with your health worker and doctor on the best multivitamin that could help minimize stress. A product that contains antioxidant could be useful.
Those that live in cities in developed countries may not find this suggestion necessary because I think they have access to good, unpolluted and nourishing food items. This may not be the same with people that live in cities located in developing countries where heap of filth are common identity and features with ravaging poverty. Do not depend on them (these multivitamin products) but try to understand the best for you.
7. Truly have a rest
Weekend will soon come. Many have formed the habit of attending all sorts of social engagements they have been invited. While I agree that such social events could help "unwind" they may build stress if not checked. I do not believe every weekend should be a time to travel a distance to attend social events.
Make most weekends therefore a time of rest. Rest truly to prepare for another stretch of long week days ahead. Prepare yourself free of stress by freeing your mind of all concern regarding such events and the previous week activities. Let go and live. Stay with your family, enjoy with them (if you have one) and loose yourself of avoidable burden-stress.
不管你生活在世界上哪一個(gè)城市,你都很可能會(huì)遇到類似的生活經(jīng)歷和各種各樣的挑戰(zhàn).研究證明,大部分這些來(lái)自各種壓力的挑戰(zhàn)已經(jīng)成為人們生活的一部分,無(wú)論你干什么,從事何種職業(yè),身處何方,你都無(wú)法避免各種壓力,但你卻能最大限度的減少壓力.因此人們大可不必將壓力視為敵人從而使生活煩躁不安.
那么我們應(yīng)該如何應(yīng)對(duì)壓力呢?讓我來(lái)告訴你一些小竅門,正是這些小竅門讓我在尼日利亞的拉哥斯那樣一個(gè)人口稠密,人們目標(biāo)迥異的城市得以應(yīng)付生活中的各種壓力,處理各種人際關(guān)系.
1 正確地認(rèn)識(shí)壓力
我們對(duì)壓力要有正確的認(rèn)識(shí),那些錯(cuò)誤的把根本算不上壓力的日常活動(dòng)和身體鍛煉看做是壓力的人就會(huì)覺(jué)得負(fù)擔(dān)過(guò)重,你可以通過(guò)讀一些文學(xué)作品,雜志或者訪問(wèn)一些網(wǎng)頁(yè)或類似的刊物來(lái)更多的了解壓力.我相信如果你能正確的認(rèn)識(shí)你所從事的活動(dòng),并且能夠以正確的眼光來(lái)看待什么是壓力,你就不會(huì)被那些實(shí)際并不存在的所謂壓力所折服.
2 不要過(guò)分擔(dān)心壓力
被壓力所催垮的往往是那些過(guò)分擔(dān)心壓力的人.我們應(yīng)該把壓力看作是可以應(yīng)對(duì)的生活中的一些無(wú)法避免的挑戰(zhàn),它們并不會(huì)帶來(lái)多么嚴(yán)重的后果,因?yàn)榉e極面對(duì)壓力總比被它壓倒好.
3 合理安排好你的活動(dòng)
有人建議你合理安排好你的活動(dòng),聽(tīng)起來(lái)也許覺(jué)得很奇怪,因?yàn)閹啄陙?lái)你一直都在安排.我覺(jué)得如果你一直被壓力所困擾的話,從這個(gè)角度出發(fā)重新安排你的活動(dòng)是一種明智的做法.這樣一來(lái)可以發(fā)現(xiàn)一些迄今為止仍然隱藏在你計(jì)劃中不足.因此不要生活在假想中,你必須明確,你的安排可能會(huì)消除你的壓力.比如說(shuō),擬定好你一天能完成的事情的數(shù)量,不要高估你的能力,只要列出你能在一天能成功完成的即可.因?yàn)闆](méi)完成的任務(wù)會(huì)讓你覺(jué)得筋疲力盡.
4 學(xué)會(huì)忘卻壓力
能夠單純的享受生活的人是那些能夠反復(fù)從充滿壓力的活動(dòng)中解脫的人.當(dāng)那些緊張的工作來(lái)了的時(shí)候就積極的應(yīng)對(duì)它.應(yīng)對(duì)不了的時(shí)候就忘了它.如果你老是糾纏在那些令人煩惱的事情上,老是想著那些未完成的事,你就會(huì)覺(jué)得體力不支.
5 過(guò)去了的就讓它過(guò)去
當(dāng)一天已經(jīng)結(jié)束了的時(shí)候就讓它過(guò)去吧.老是想著前一天的事情會(huì)讓你覺(jué)得疲憊,分散你的精力.
6 補(bǔ)充食物 緩減壓力
多年來(lái)我發(fā)現(xiàn)多種維他命膠囊在對(duì)抗緊張的城市生活時(shí)是極為重要的。一個(gè)人遇到交通堵塞時(shí),長(zhǎng)期的滯留在機(jī)動(dòng)車輛中,吸入大量汽車的煙塵,吃被污染了的食物 ——這是產(chǎn)生壓力的普遍原因,并且還伴隨著健康問(wèn)題的產(chǎn)生。和你保健員和醫(yī)生一起找到一種最好的多種維他命是非常明智的。含抗氧化劑的藥品可能會(huì)很有用。
生活在發(fā)達(dá)國(guó)家的那些城市的人可能覺(jué)得這樣做沒(méi)必要。因?yàn)槲矣X(jué)得他們可以吃到無(wú)污染的有營(yíng)養(yǎng)的優(yōu)質(zhì)食物。這點(diǎn)可能和那些發(fā)展中國(guó)家很不一樣,在發(fā)展中國(guó)家一堆堆的垃圾隨處可見(jiàn),貧窮也是其主要特點(diǎn)。不過(guò)不要依賴于那些多種維他命產(chǎn)品,但是要知道對(duì)你最有好處的是哪種。
7 真正的休息一下
周末很快就到了,許多人習(xí)慣于在周末參加各種社交活動(dòng)。我承認(rèn)這可以幫助人們放松一下,但是一不小心,它們?cè)黾尤藗兊膲毫ΑN艺J(rèn)為周末就不要非得去到比較遠(yuǎn)的地方參加社交活動(dòng)。
我們應(yīng)該讓周末變成一個(gè)休息的時(shí)間,是真正意義上的休息,從而為即將到來(lái)的另一個(gè)漫長(zhǎng)的工作日做好準(zhǔn)備。不要考慮社交此類的事情,不要再想上一周的工作,把自己從壓力中解放出來(lái)。和你的家人待在一起,和他們一起享受快樂(lè)(如果你有家庭的話),從哪些完全可避免的壓力中解脫出來(lái)。