A teacher can be very good to your child and also mistreat your child. They are the person who is really in control when you are not present, so you want to speak to them tactfully and with respect. Remember if you alienate them, they might alienate your child. Here are a few helpful tips:

10. The teacher is not in charge of your home. If your child is not behaving themselves at home, thats your responsibility. Telling the teacher that Tommy does not behave at the mall really does not matter to her if his classroom behavior is fine. Stick to classroom issues.

9. Never ask a teacher to feed your child. Sure you can mention to them that Tommy has poor eating habits, but remember, Tommy is one of many children. If the teacher stops to hand feed Tommy so does the rest of the class. Give Tommy lots of food options and remember Tommy will eat when he is hungry.

8. Never interrupt a lesson to talk to the teacher. Unless it’s an emergency, call or leave a note for her to call. You may even speak to one of the assistants. When you interrupt the lesson you are teaching your child that the lesson is unimportant, and if you think its unimportant, so will they.

7. Never expect a teacher to be your child’s babysitter. In school environments teachers are not responsible for lost items such as sweaters, lunch boxes, or show-and-tell toys. While they may help you look for it, it is not their responsibility. Remember they are paid to teach your child, not pick up after them.

6. Never ask the teacher to separate your child from another. Part of being a child is learning how to socially interact with other people. If your child is having a problem make the teacher aware of it and don’t cross the line of saying that you demand your child not play with Tommy anymore. Teacher’s cannot keep children separated nor is it fair to ask.

5. Never ask a teacher about another child. It is none of your business to know what the deal is with any child but your own. If you observe that Tommy has some issues, as long as Tommy is not your child, it’s not your business.

4. Never pass a teacher without saying hello. Teachers are with your children all day. It can make someone feel special to just take a moment to say, "hello, how are you?" This is one small thing that can make a teacher feel appreciated.

3. Never Accuse, Always Ask First. If Tommy comes home and tells you that the teacher put him in time out for no reason, ask her the next day in front of Tommy. You don’t want to barge in there and demand information about your Tommy. By listening rationally, you will get the answers you want and everyone will be happy.

2. Similarly, Never go over the teacher’s head before discussing the situation with her first. If Tommy came home with a bruise nobody told you about, discuss it with the teachers before you speak to the Director. The Directors are not in the room with Tommy all day. If the teacher has no explanation or is defensive then you take it to the next level.

1. Talk your kids teachers with like they are your friends! If they love you, your kids will almost definately get better attention. Also, they deserve it because they are caring for our precious children. Even if you are upset with them, speaking with courtesy and respect can often solve problems easily.

Above all else, remember that teacher’s are not God’s. They do not see all, hear all, or know all. Sometimes they make mistakes, and sometimes they forget things. Remembering they are human and treating them with continued respect is the key to a successful relationship with any classroom teacher.

一位老師可能對你的孩子很好，也可能對孩子很過分。他們是你不在孩子身邊時，真正負責你孩子的人，所以和他們說話時需要隨機應變，又滿懷敬意。記住，如果你有意疏遠老師，老師就可能會疏遠你的孩子。這里有幾點有幫助的建議：

10. 老師不對你的家庭負責。

如果你的孩子在家不怎么活動，那是你自己的責任。如果他的同學都表現很好的話，告訴老師湯米不會在林蔭道玩對她來說真的無所謂。要順應班級的情況。

9. 永遠不要讓老師給孩子喂飯。

的確你可以和老師提，湯米吃飯的習慣很不好，但是要記住，湯米只是多數孩子當中的一個。如果老師停下來給湯米喂飯，那就必須對班里其它的孩子做同樣的事情。給湯米提供多一些的食物選擇，他餓了時候總會吃的。

8. 永遠不要打斷課堂和老師談話。

除非是緊急事件，不然就給她打電話，或是留言要求其回電話。你甚至可以和她的一位助手談。當你打斷課堂時，你就是在教孩子，課堂是不重要的，如果你都這樣認為，孩子們也會理所當然地這樣想。

7. 永遠別期望老師成為孩子的保姆。

在學校，老師是不負責諸如毛衣，午餐盒或是玩具一類的失物找尋工作。但是他們可能會幫你找，但是這卻不是他們應盡的責任。記住，老師領薪水，是為了教孩子，而不是給他們料理雜事。

6. 永遠別要求老師把你的孩子與其它人分開。

學習如何與他人相處是做孩子的功課之一。如果你的孩子有問題，老師也意識到這一點，她也不會越權和你說你得讓你的孩子不要再和別人玩。老師不能將孩子隔離，這樣要求也是不公平的。

5. 永遠別問老師其它孩子的情況。

別的孩子怎么樣了，跟你毫無關系，除非是你自己的孩子。如果你發現湯米出了什么問題，只要湯米不是你的孩子，就跟你無關。

4. 永遠不要不和老師打招呼就匆匆而過。

老師和你的孩子會待上一整天的時間。這足以讓人特意花一分鐘的時間說一句，“你好，身體無恙吧！” 這是一件小事，卻會讓老師覺得他受人欣賞。

3. 永遠不要指責，先問清楚情況。

如果湯米回到家，告訴你老師毫無理由地把他留在后面了，你就要在第二天當著湯米的面詢問老師這件事。你不要插嘴，詢問有關湯米的事情就行了。理智地傾聽，你會得到你想要的答案，而且大家都滿意而歸。

2. 同樣，永遠別在和老師談論事情前，向她的上司告狀。

假如湯米回家時，身上帶有淤青，沒人告訴你到底發生了什么，在和主任談論之前，務必先和湯米的老師談。主任并不是一整天都和湯米在一間教室內的人。如果老師對此事無法解釋或是大發雷霆，到時你就可以向上反映了。

1. 和孩子的老師談話要如同和朋友談話。

如果他們愛你，你的孩子肯定會備受關心。而且，也應該這樣對他們，畢竟他們一直照顧我們的寶貝孩子。盡管你對他們感覺不放心，與他們禮貌，恭敬地談話總是會讓事情很好解決。

除了以上幾點，記住老師不是神。他們無法什么都看得見，什么都聽得到，什么都了解。有時他們會出錯，有時他們會丟三落四。記住他們也是人，一直都尊重老師是和任何老師打好關系的關鍵所在。