Every one of us wants to belong to a friend or group of friends to express some things that we cannot share to our family. I am sure we all pass to that stage that we are unable to share to our mom and dad other secrets of adolescent that we can easily share with our buddies because we know or we thought they can understand better than our parents. During high school we had better friends that college time. And during the first work we met some new friends as well but there are those friends who stick with us through the years. How to meet new and good friends, establish relationships and keep them for life? Here’s some facts.

    a.) When meeting strangers don’t be an open book right away. Don’t be aloof or a snob, get his/her name and other stuff about the person. One thing that is so discouraging for a prospect friend is someone who opens up right away. It is so awkward for the other person, while there are some who can take the accuracy. But it is better to give just enough information.

    b.) Don’t forget to smile – smiling makes you look approachable, even if you are not attractive at all. A smile can soften your aura and making you look kind.

    c.) Don’t tag him/her along like a dog making him/her look like your servant – you shouldn’t force him/her to do anything she/he doesn’t like. Because if she does that to you, the feelings are never good –it’s like you’re being taken advantaged of or exploited.

    d.) Don’t go with a person that is totally opposite to you – choose a friend with similar hobbies, wants and other aspects of life and make sure they are good influence. If you choose your friends, you are sure you get good friends than just random friends.

    e.) Do not bend over just to satisfy a friend. If she/he makes you do things you do not like, say NO so she/will never learn to abuse you.

    f.) Treat her special – if it’s birthday, give a simple present, a hug or anything that would make her feel good about herself. You shouldn’t take a friend for granted. Remember the Confucius saying : Do unto others what you want others do unto you and vice versa.

    g.) Mean your sorry – if you have some mistakes or you missed dinners or hangouts say sorry and mean it. Do not say sorry and then do it again and again.

    h.) Be a good friend as well – If you know what she do is wrong don’t tolerate say something even it will make her go away from you. If she goes away because you said something she’s not a true friend. A true friend is someone that is a good listener and always celebrates on the betterment of the other.

    i.) Don’t be too curious and do foolish things – say another peer talked about drugs and you already know it’s wrong, don’t try to mess with it coz you cannot only destroy your friendship but your life.

    j.) Be there when they need you - specially in emotional part, love life or family life, friends need help and if we should be there to listen and not direct them. Sometimes problematic people just needs someone to talk to and not someone to command what to do.

    h.) Don't demmand, be independent.

    Having great friends that will stick in years is really great but remember to know the world “let go” because change is the only permanent in the world.

    每個人都需要一個或一群朋友來宣泄不能和家人分享的東西。我肯定我們都在青春期的時候都有一些不能和父母名言的秘密，這些卻可以和弟兄們共享，因為我們知道或自認為他們比父母更容易理解我們。高中時的密友比大學時候的要好，在第一份工作的時候也會交到一些朋友，但總有一些朋友能夠伴隨良久。如何找到新的好朋友，建立一生的友情呢？請參照一下事實。

   a.)  對于剛認識的模式人，不要急著坦開自己。不要顯得孤僻或勢利，主動問他或她的名字和其他的信息。交朋友一開始就坦白自己是件很令人氣餒的。會讓別人感到尷尬。雖然有人真的可以這樣結交，一開始的時候還是給出恰當足夠的信息就夠了

   b.)  要保持微笑。微笑會使人覺得你易于接近，即使你不吸引人也一樣。一個善意的微笑會讓你氣質雍容善良。

   c.)  別像小狗一樣的緊貼著他或她，這會讓人覺得他/她是你的傭人。你不應該強迫別人為你做他們不愿意做的事情。因為那如果他們也那么做的話，你會感覺很糟。就像你被占了便宜或被剝削一樣。

    d.) 不要試圖和性情完全和自己相反的人交朋友，要尋找和自己意氣相投的人，并且能給自己好的影響。如果你要挑選自己朋友，那就要確定自己選的而不是隨即碰到的朋友。

    e.) 不要委屈自己去滿足朋友。如果他/她要你做你不喜歡的事情，對他說不。這樣他們就不會濫用友情了。

    f.) 要好好對待她，如果是生日，就送一個簡單的禮物，一個擁抱，任何能讓她感覺良好的東西。友情不是理所當然的事情。孔夫子有云：己所不欲，勿施于人。

    g.)真誠的表達自己的歉意。如果你翻臉錯誤或者缺席飯局或玩局，那就得真誠的道歉。不要一邊道歉一邊屢教不改。

   h.)做一個真摯的朋友。如果你知道她做的不對，那你就不能遷就，即使她會離你而去也要把事實告訴她。如果她走開了，說明她不是一位真摯的朋友。一個摯友會是一個傾聽者，她總是為朋友的進步而高興。

   i.) 別太好奇而做蠢事。就像一個同事談及毒品，你心里知道那是錯的，就不要亂參合。因為你毀掉的不止你們的友誼，還可能丟了小命。

   j.)他們需要你的時候，一定不要推辭。特別是感情方面，愛情或親情。這個時候朋友需要幫助，我們應該傾聽他們的心聲而不是指導他們。有時候，深陷泥潭的人們只是需要一個傾聽者，而不是一個指揮官。

   h.)不要索取，要獨立。

    能夠擁有歷久彌新的友情是件好事情，但還是要記住該“放手”時就“放手”，天下萬事，無物不變，惟變不變。