if you really want to have success with women than you need to learn the right way to attract a woman. What I mean by this is that you have to avoid doing what 99% of all men do. When most men approach a woman they usually don't have any confidence, they don't sustain any meaningful eye contact, and they lack the necessary social skills to generate attraction from an initial conversation. The good news is that talking to a woman the right way is a learned skill. And just like reading a book or riding a snowboard anyone can learn how to talk to a woman the right way.

There are three basic types of conversation that you can have with a woman. The first type, is known as an informational conversation. This is when you are talking to a woman and you are simply giving her information about a topic in a very blasé or scientific way. Talking about your next job assignment is a good example of this. Obviously, this does not generate attraction. This could be the reason why many scientists have trouble getting a date. The second type of conversation is known as a one-way conversation. This can be either a man talking mostly about himself and not allowing a woman to get in a word in edgewise or this could mean that the man does not know how to engage or challenge a woman so that she will want to engage him back.

The third kind of conversation is known as a two-way conversation and this has a higher likelihood of generating attraction in a woman because she is now fully engaged with you. But having a two-way conversation is not enough to get a woman attracted to you. You must also be in total alignment with who you are as a confident male. Women are not attracted to men who don't know what they want in life. Women are also not attracted to men that don't have a spine. If you always cave into her demands, then she will actually get bored of you.

You will notice that in your many interactions with different kinds of women that they are going to challenge you. This is their way of testing you to see if you are who you say you are. So while you are trying to have a conversation with her she might start to become interested in you. One thing that I've learned over the years is that women love to test men. So they will do things that might seem a little strange. Out of the blue she might ask you to buy her a drink. She might also excuse herself to the bathroom and then on the way there she will stop and talk to a guy that she knows. And she's not doing this to be mean, she is simply going to see if you will get jealous. An insecure man gets jealous and a man who is not insecure won't. So watch out for these tests because they happen all the time.

Some things to keep in mind when you are talking to a woman.

1. Maintain eye contact longer than normal.

2. Make sure you have confident body language.

3. Ask her open-ended questions and then let her run with it.

4. Don't talk too much about yourself and never brag about your job, your money, or your car because these things only communicate insecurity.

5. Make sure you're well-groomed. This will communicate that you care about your appearance and that you have self-respect.

6. Ask for her contact information when your conversation is at it's conclusion.

7. Do not hang around too long unless you plan on getting her alone so you can really build up the rapport. Otherwise change locations or get her contact information and then leave.

By following these guidelines you are going to be much better off than the competition. So the next time you go online or you are at a coffee shop or you are in a bookstore make sure you keep the these guidelines and mind and your chances of success will skyrocket.

   你若想對(duì)女人成功，就要學(xué)會(huì)吸引女人的正確方法。 我的意思是，你得避免99%的男人都犯的錯(cuò)誤。大多數(shù)男人接近女人時(shí)，他們通常都無自信，他們沒有保持意味深長的眼神接觸，而且缺乏必要的社交技巧以在初次談話中產(chǎn)生吸引力。好消息是，正確和女人交談是已知的一門技巧了，每個(gè)人都能像讀書或玩滑雪板那樣地去學(xué)習(xí)如何正確地同女人交談。

與女人交談?dòng)腥�種基本類型。第一種，被稱作信息型交談。這就是當(dāng)你和女人談話時(shí)，你只是就每個(gè)主題用非常司空見慣或科學(xué)性的方式給她灌輸信息。談?wù)撃愕南乱粋�(gè)工作安排就是一個(gè)很好的例子。顯然，這無法產(chǎn)生吸引力。這可能就是為什么許多科學(xué)家在約會(huì)時(shí)遇到麻煩的原因吧。第二種交談?lì)愋捅环Q為單向交談。這可以是男人大多數(shù)時(shí)間都談?wù)撍�自己，而不讓女人插上一句話，也可以是男人不知道怎樣吸引女人，或不知道如何向女人發(fā)出挑戰(zhàn)，因此女人便會(huì)反過來去吸引他。

第三種交談?lì)愋捅环Q作雙向交談，這才具有較高可能性去制造對(duì)女人的吸引力，因?yàn)榇藭r(shí)她完全被你吸引住了。但擁有雙向交談還不足以讓女人被你吸引。你還必須完全清楚自己是誰，如同一個(gè)自信的男人。女人不會(huì)被那些不知道自己在生活中想要什么的男人所吸引。女人也不會(huì)對(duì)沒有脊梁骨的男人吸引，你若總是對(duì)她唯命是從，那么她就會(huì)真的對(duì)你感到厭煩。

你會(huì)注意到，在你和各種類型的女人進(jìn)行的交流中，她們會(huì)向你發(fā)出挑戰(zhàn)。這是她們用來測(cè)試你的一種方法，以便看看你是不是你所說的那個(gè)你。所以當(dāng)你試著和她交談時(shí)，她可能開始慢慢對(duì)你發(fā)生了興趣。多年來我所學(xué)到的一件事是，女人喜歡測(cè)試男人。因此，她們會(huì)做一些可能看起來怪怪的事情。她可能會(huì)突然要你給她買一杯飲料，她還可能借故去洗手間，然后再半路上停下來和她認(rèn)識(shí)的男人聊天。她不是因?yàn)楸氨啥�這樣做，她只不過想看看你是否妒忌罷了。不可靠的男人會(huì)妒忌，而可靠的男人則不會(huì)。所以，要當(dāng)心這些測(cè)試， 因?yàn)樗鼈儫o時(shí)不在。

當(dāng)你同女人交談時(shí)，要牢記下列事項(xiàng)：

1. 保持眼神接觸，要長于正常時(shí)間。

2. 確保你具有自信的肢體語言。

3. 問她一些可以自由回答的問題，然后讓她自行發(fā)揮。

4. 勿要過多談?wù)撟约海�永遠(yuǎn)不要夸耀你的工作、金錢、或汽車，因?yàn)檫@些東西只是傳達(dá)出不可靠的信息。

5. 確保邊幅修整。這會(huì)傳達(dá)出這樣的信息：你注重自己的外表，并且你自尊自重。

6. 在交談結(jié)束時(shí)，向她要聯(lián)系方式。

7. 不要泡得太長，除非你盤算著得到與她獨(dú)處的機(jī)會(huì)從而得以真正確立關(guān)系。否則，就換個(gè)地方，或者要到她聯(lián)系方式，然后走人。

遵照上述準(zhǔn)則，你將會(huì)在競(jìng)爭中更進(jìn)一步。那么下次當(dāng)你上網(wǎng)、或在咖啡店、或在書店時(shí)，留意這些準(zhǔn)則并遵行之，那么你成功的機(jī)會(huì)就會(huì)急劇飆升。