Anyone who's experienced heartbreak knows that there's no magic formula for making someone fall in love with you. （Or in some cases, back in love with you.）. However, you can up your chances of making that special lady swoon by following a few of these simple tips.

    任何經歷過傷心失戀的人都知道，當一個人不愛你的時候沒有任何方法可以挽回她的芳心。（或在某些情況下，她會回心轉意。）不過，現在只要按照下面20條黃金法則做你就有機會讓心愛的人為你著迷，贏得她的芳心！

    1） Be All Ears 學會做他的聽眾而不是建議者

    Women like to work out their problems. Offer a bended ear and fight the urge to provide a solution or rush her to the point. She just wants you to listen while she vents, explains or just muses.

    2） Compliment Her 要學會讓她高興

    A lot of women put a lot of effort into looking nice for their date. Offer a flattering remark on her time well spent and she will be delighted that you noticed.

    3） Throw a Pep Rally 做她的忠實粉絲，尊重他的選擇

    Act as her cheerleader on life's sidelines. Support her choices, feelings, successes and failures and she will appreciate （and lean on） her biggest fan.

    4） Remember that Chivalry Is Not Dead 要有紳士風度

    Man the door, pull the chair and wait for her to be seated. Treating her like a lady never goes out of style.

    5） Focus All Eyes on Her 注視著她的眼睛，讓她感覺到你的關注

    Focus on her with attention and interest. Extracurricular gazing makes you look bored and rude.

    6） Leave a Message 約會前發短信給她

    Whether it's your first date or the tenth, leave a message asserting how much you enjoyed your time with her and how you can't wait to see her again.

    7） Growing Love 培養感情

    Bring or send her flowers because it's Tuesday or for no reason at all. Better yet, send them to work to make her feel beautiful and appreciated.

    8） Be Mr. Clean 要保持干凈衛生

    You may not know it, but every time she picks up your wet towel or cleans beard clippings from the sink, the romance wears off.

    9） Play the Music Man 表現出對音樂的熱愛

    Learn how to play the guitar or hone your singing voice. Ladies melt over the simultaneous vulnerability and bad boy coolness of confident rock stars. No musical talent? Demonstrate passion in a hobby that you love.

    10） Clown Around 要有幽默感

    Hone your funny bone to encourage her to feel comfortable, let loose and get silly.

    11） Drop It Like Its Hot 不要為小事而繁瑣

    Shrug off the small things and let it go. A diffusing attitude and cool demeanor is always a welcome response to pending crisis.

    12） Keep it All In The Family 融入她的交際圈

    Woo her friends and family, too. Her circle will be the first to comment on your worthiness of her attention.

    13） Take the Consultative Approach 遇事要和她協商

    Seek her advice, even if you don't really need it. Consulting her shows that you appreciate her opinion and that she is useful and comforting.

    14） Zip It 盡量做她生活圈內的人

    If you aren't complimenting members of her inner circle, zip it. It's an instant turnoff to hear a negative opinion about those that have been in her life long before you came along.

    15） Get Lost 給雙方足夠的空間

    While prioritizing her in your life is important, she can't be the only thing going on. Spend time with others and do your own thing to make the heart grow fonder.

    16） Slow It Down 創造浪漫的氣氛

    Court her with a slow dance whenever possible. While lovely at cousin Ed's wedding or at a jazz club on Friday night, surprise her with a turn around the kitchen during macaroni and cheese for impromptu romance.

    17） Timing is Everything 一定要守時

    Arrive on time for your date. Although traffic and miscalculations can be forgiven, consistently showing up late sends the signal that her time isn't as important as yours.

    18） Remember that Family Matters 做個顧家的人

    Introducing your new ladylove to your family will demonstrate how important she is in your life. The way you treat your family presents a good gauge of what she can expect in your courtship.

    19） Surprise! 時時給她驚喜

    Catch her unaware with that fetching coat she has been eyeing, a message on her work voicemail or a note in her bag lunch to keep her guessing and excited.

    20） Soup for the Soul 生病了要多關心照顧她

    Take care of her when she is under the weather with a care package of cough drops, chicken soup, or a get well note. She may not feel （or look） her best, but these moments will show that you are in it to win it.