"Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving." -Dale Carnegie
If we really want to be happy, why do we act like such babies?
We can claim to be proactive in our life by settings goals and going after what we want. But if we're always whining and complaining all the time, are we really living effectively?
If you don't believe me, count how many times you complain about something or other in one day. Whether it be being stuck in traffic, being bothered by the weather, not enough mustard on your sandwich, or whatever it is, there are endless instances where you can find a reason to complain.
But it's not just outside circumstances that we complain about. We complain about about ourselves too. We complain that we don't have enough time, we don't have enough money (this one is huge because it's often "true"), that we're not smart enough, cool enough, or just enough.
I know I've experienced plenty of unpleasantness due to complaining about things I can't control. I never really thought about it much until I found this website about "living in a complain free world."
Imagine how much happier you would be if you simply stopped complaining? Much of what you complain about is outside of your control anyway. What's the point of brooding about something you have no power to change? Not very intelligent, if you ask me.
Simply becoming conscious of how much you complain is the first step to stopping. When you recognize that you're complaining, stop and take notice of it. Ask yourself if you would rather complain, or be happy.
Are you ready to live a complaint-free, happier life?
任何笨蛋都可以批評(píng),譴責(zé)和抱怨,但是理解和寬容需要個(gè)人品質(zhì)和自我控制--卡內(nèi)基
如果我們想要變得高興,為什么要像小孩子那樣呢?
我們可以積極主動(dòng)的在我們生活中設(shè)定目標(biāo),然后向著目標(biāo)進(jìn)發(fā)。但是如果我們整天牢騷滿腹,怨天尤人的話,我們還會(huì)活的有效率嗎?
如果你不相信我,仔細(xì)想想你一天要抱怨幾次。不管是因?yàn)樵愀獾慕煌ɡё。惶鞖馑_,還是三明治上芥末放的不夠,總之生活中有無數(shù)的煩心事可以讓我們抱怨。
不僅僅外部的環(huán)境讓我們抱怨,我們還不斷的抱怨我們自己。比如時(shí)間不夠啊,錢不夠花啊,不夠聰明不夠冷靜啊,反正什么看上去都不夠好。
很多時(shí)候,不愉快都是因?yàn)楸г棺约翰荒芸刂频氖虑椤N覜]有仔細(xì)的思考過這個(gè)問題,直到有一天我發(fā)現(xiàn)一個(gè)叫"活在沒有抱怨的世界中"的網(wǎng)站。
想想吧,如果你停止抱怨的話你會(huì)變的多么的快樂。反正那些事情又無力改變,整天想著那些你無力改變的事情有有什么意義呢?如果你來問我,我會(huì)說那樣很愚蠢。
停止抱怨要做的第一步就是想清楚你在抱怨什么。當(dāng)你意識(shí)到自己在抱怨的時(shí)候,停下來,問問自己是要變的快樂還是繼續(xù)這樣抱怨下去。
你準(zhǔn)備好過沒有抱怨,更加快樂的生活了嗎?