Dear daughter,
You are a wonderful person and your mother and I think the world of you. It will not be long before you leave home to make your way in the world. Can I please give you some friendly advice? Here are some things that you should never do.
1. Never Despise Yourself.
You are great and capable of achieving great things so believe in yourself. When things go badly never stop believing. Some girls get depressed, blame themselves and lose self-esteem. All sorts of problems can follow.
2. Never Get Obsessed with your Appearance.
We think you look great (though some of the outfits you wear worry us!). Please be happy with the person you are and the body you have. Eat sensibly, take exercise and be healthy. Some girls become obsessed with losing weight or getting the perfect shape. You look fine.
3. Never Live Beyond Your Means.
Throughout life try to keep your spending within your income and so save a little. Avoid getting into debt if possible. There are some exceptions - like getting a mortgage to buy a house - but generally if you can live within your means you will avoid all sorts of problems.
4. Never Compromise Your Personal Safety.
Never put yourself at serious risk. This means that you cannot trust people until you really know them and that sometimes you have to avoid things that look like they might be fun. Never get drunk or take drugs. Unfortunately there are some malevolent people out there and it is best not to take undue risks.
5. Never Get Involved with a Married Man.
There are plenty of great single men out there. Don't get entangled with a married man no matter how attractive he is - it will end in your tears.
6. Never Give Less Than Your Best.
We are very proud of what you have accomplished so far. You should be proud too. Keep doing well. Keep trying your hardest at everything you do. No one can ask for more than that.
7. Never Forget that Your Parents Love You.
Whatever happens in life, your family will still be your family. Whatever difficulties you encounter you can always talk to us and we will try to help. We are here for you
親愛的女兒:
你是了不起的人,我和媽媽非常愛你。你離開家走上社會的日子不遠了。我可以給你一些善意的建議嗎?這是幾個你絕不能做的事情。
1.絕不要看不起自己。
你很優秀,也有能力獲得美好的前程,因此要相信自己。身處逆境的時候也絕不放棄。有些女孩子會因此消沉下去,怪罪自己,從而失去自尊。那樣一來,各種問題都會隨之而來。
2.絕不要為自己的外貌而煩惱。
我們認為你長得很美(盡管你穿的某些時裝令我們擔憂!).你就是你,不要為自己的外貌煩惱。要合理膳食,做做運動,保持健康。有些女孩子為減肥或塑造完美的身材而煩惱。但你已經很好了。
3.生活費用絕不要超支。
生活上都要努力保持收支平衡,因此,要存點錢。在可能的情況下避免舉債。也可以有些例外--如抵押貸款買房子--總的來說,如果你能保持收支平衡就能避免各種麻煩。
4.絕不要危及個人安全。
絕不要讓自己處于危險的境地。這是說,不要相信還不真正了解的人,有時還要回避看似有趣的活動。絕不要酗酒或吸毒。遺憾的是,這個社會總還是有不好的人,因此,最好不要過度冒險。
5.絕不要和已婚男人糾纏不清。
外面有許多優秀的單身男人。不要和已婚男人攪在一起,不管他多么有魅力--不然會讓你以淚洗面。
6.絕不要半途而廢。
我們為你已取得的成就感到驕傲,你也應該感到自豪。繼續好好干。繼續在任何事上都盡最大努力。沒人能要求更多了。
7.絕不要忘記你的父母愛你。
生活中無論發生了什么,你的家始終是你的家。無論你遇到什么困難,你都可以告訴我們,我們會盡力幫助你。我們永遠是你的堅強后盾。