Amanda: My most embarrassing moment involved me flashing my underpants to a whole bunch of people at my high school.
Stacey: I embarrass myself nearly every day! I'm a bit of a klutz and that can be pretty embarrassing. I once tripped and fell onto a complete stranger in the street! He was pretty nice about it, but I felt pretty silly.
Daniel: A personal favourite was my Year Ten school photo. I was on the top row, felt really sick, and started turning green. The photographer noticed and made me come down in front of my whole year while he elevated my feet and told me to take deep breaths. My green and red face was immortalized in the school photo that year so I will never forget.
Glen: In primary school I had a whole afternoon of embarrassment--I split my pants right around during lunchtime. I couldn't do anything about it until I went home at 4:30pm so I had to spend the afternoon at school and after school with my underpants hanging out of my split pants.
Olivia: Mine would have to be when I was traveling overseas and all my bags went tumbling off my trolley while going down the escalator because I didn't see the sign. I broke several possessions and my glass bottle of drink spilt everywhere.
There are a number of classic reasons for having an embarrassing moment.
Firstly, tripping over and landing flat on your face. Normally, this is due to a lack of focus or being distracted. Keep an eye out for where you are going and what you are doing and you will be fine.
Secondly, having embarrassing information about you being made public knowledge. Whether it's about your family, a guy you like or something silly you have done, make sure you tell private things only to trustworthy people, and you won't have to worry about that information getting out.
Thirdly, clothes and shoes can often be a source of embarrassing moments--when your top is on back to front, your buttons aren't matching up, or the zipper on your pants is down--there is an easy way to eliminate these embarrassing and common mistakes. Get into the habit of checking your entire outfit before you leave the room and you will never be caught out.
Lastly, we all get our words mixed up sometimes. We sometimes say things before thinking about what we are saying. In order to prevent this make sure that you think about what you are about to say first--it's better to take your time and say something worthwhile than to sound silly and you might even save yourself from hurting other people's feelings in the future too.
While you can't control how others will react to your embarrassing moment, you can control how you will react. The key to surviving the moment is to not freak out and show that you are aware that you're being laughed at. To make it easier, try remembering these three pointers:
1) You'll probably be laughing about it in a few days, so try to see the funny side of it right away.
2) If it's something so humiliating that you know you'll never laugh about it, understand that the pain is bound to fade over time.
3) Ask your friends to give you a break and not make fun of you. If you've done the same for them, they're more likely to let it pass.
我們都有過尷尬的時候。說話不得體弄得自己和他人都很難堪時,會感到尷尬;受到冷遇,坐冷板凳時,會感到尷尬;眾目睽睽之下出丑露怯,也會感到尷尬。尷尬的時候,實在是左右為難、手足無措,恨不得找個地縫兒鉆進去。應對尷尬局面的六字箴言就是:既來之,則安之;避免尷尬的六字箴言則是:吃一塹,長一智。先來看看下面的五位朋友碰到了怎樣的尷尬局面:
阿曼達:我最尷尬的事是上中學的時候,有一次內褲露出來讓一大群人看到了。
斯泰西:我?guī)缀趺刻於寂龅綄擂问隆N疫@個人有點馬大哈,有時候會出一些很尷尬的事。有一次在街上,我一腳絆倒撲倒在一個素不相識的陌生人身上。那個人倒沒說什么,但我覺得自己這樣很可笑。
丹尼爾:我經常講的一件尷尬事跟我十年級學校照有關。我站在最高一排,當時身體很虛弱,臉色開始發(fā)青。攝影師發(fā)現了,當著全年級同學的面,搬著我的腳放我下來,讓我做幾個深呼吸。我的臉青一塊,紅一塊,永遠記錄在那年學校的合影上,所以我一輩子都忘不了。
格倫:我上小學出了一件糗事,讓我難受了一個下午。褲子早不破,晚不破,偏偏吃午飯的時候撕破了。我一點辦法也沒有,一直挨到下午四點半放學回家。整個下午我的內褲都露在破褲子外面。
奧利維亞:說起我最尷尬的事,應該算那次出國的時候,下電梯沒看清標志,手推車上的行李全都掉了下來,摔壞了幾樣東西,玻璃瓶裝的飲料灑得到處都是。
出現尷尬有許多典型的原因。
最后一點,每個人都會有說錯話的時候。有時候我們不假思索就說了些話。為防止此類事情發(fā)生,一定要把你想說的話先考慮一番,與其噼里啪啦說一些傻話,還不如從從容容地說一些有價值的話。這樣甚至還可能避免將來出口傷人。
第一,腳被絆了一下,摔了個嘴啃地。出現這種情況通常是因為注意力不集中或走了神。只要走路或做事的時候留心就不會出洋相。
第二,你的尷尬事讓大家都知道了。不管是家人的事,親朋好友的事,還是你自己干的傻事,記住私事只能跟信得過的人講,這樣就不用擔心叫外人知道后取笑你了。
第三,衣服和鞋子經常會讓人陷入尷尬,比如上衣后面穿到前面,衣服扣子扣錯了,褲子拉鏈沒拉上。要杜絕這些常見的叫人尷尬的錯誤其實很簡單。只要養(yǎng)成出門前檢查全套裝扮的習慣,就不會被人抓住把柄。
你碰到尷尬事雖然無法控制別人的反應,但你可以控制自己的反應。這個時候,關鍵是不要動怒,不要表現出你意識到被人取笑。簡單說來,請盡量記住以下三點:
第一,過幾天你自己很可能覺得這件事很好笑,何不現在就看到事情可笑的一面?
第二,如果這件事讓你蒙羞,你一輩子都不會覺得可笑,那么你應該明白一個道理,痛苦會隨著時間的流逝而減輕。
第三,請朋友們饒你一次,不要笑話你。如果你是這樣對待他們的,他們會更容易放你一馬